Disturbing Personal Note

[wisherwell]

This should probably be posted on my regular journal, but I need people to comment and tell me what to do on this.

I just found out a half hour ago that my younger brother got suspended from school for a day because of me. Not because I did something, but because he was defending me from people who were basically sexually harrasing me to get to him.

It goes like this: sometime before Christmas break, Christopher overheard this group of guys making fun of gays, calling them queer, and faggots, and stuff like that. My brother piped up and defended them, saying that his sister was a lesbian, and that they needed to shut up. Ever since then, this one guy has been saying vulgar, really horrible things about me to tease Chistopher.

He never mentioned anything about this. Ever.

So today, the guy started talking about me in his lunch today. My brother must have been sitting near or something, but he finally snapped. Christopher punched the boy in his eye. Now, he's suspended for a day (don't know what happened to the other) but Mr. O'Conner now also knows about why my brother did what he did, and if he hears that it's still happening, he will tell my parents and they will make a complaint.

What I need help on is that my mom doesn't want me talking to Christopher about this. I want to at least talk to him, tell him he doesn't need to defend my honor, though I am proud that his 4 years of karate were put to use. This is really between me, him, and the bully. Hell, my brother's four years younger than me! He's only 11, and has taken it upon himself to defend a 15 year old.

Any suggestions?

Comments

[staceey.livejournal.com]

I think its awfully sweet that your brother did that. I mean sure I'm sorry that he got suspended for it but he was standing up for what he believes in, which is you, his big sis. I'm not one to speak against what you moms says to do or not to do. But seriously, I think some kind of talk between you and your brother should happen. Reassurance that you're not angry with him and that you love him etc etc and thank him for doing it but maybe request that from now on come to you first before things get way out of hand?

*hugs* I'm probably absolutely no help at all but thats my two cents worth. :)

[esprit-boheme.livejournal.com]

*hugs back* Thanks. I did actually follow your advice. My brother opened up to me and told me what the guy was saying, and after hearing it, I'm surprised he was able to hold out for so long.

I'm turning into Dean... I just wanna find the person and kill them for actually thinking of hurting him.

[staceey.livejournal.com]

:) Glad I could help then. I'm glad he opened up to you, its always best if at all possible to keep the channel of communication open between family and friends, helps to avoid problems later on down the road.

Ah well, its totally understandable why you feel that way, I mean you're only human. *hugs* But, you have to remember retaliation makes you just as bad as the person doing the harrassing. And usually when people make fun of or talk down about others its because they are either jealous of you or their life is so fucking lame, that they have nothing better to do.

Who knows, could be he's gay too and is jealous because you have the courage to be who you are.